The common misperception is that men don’t need therapy because asking for help is seen as weak. But here’s the truth: therapy isn’t about being broken — it’s about being strong enough to face your emotions, get real, and grow. After all, real strength comes from vulnerability, not suppression.
Vulnerability isn’t a weakness. As Dr. Brené Brown, a well-known academic researcher so wisely put it: “Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.” Yes, courage. And you know what? That courage isn’t just about being seen in the boardroom or on the sports field — it’s about being real, raw, and open about your feelings.
If you grew up a guy, chances are you were handed a script for masculinity that said “Boys don’t cry,” they’d say. “Toughen up.” Or maybe it was “Don’t be a wimp.”
Anger is a secondary emotion — it’s actually a mask for something much deeper…
Here’s the thing: Anger is often the only emotion men feel “allowed” to express. Why? Because it’s a socially acceptable form of emotional expression. But what people often forget is that anger is a secondary emotion. That rage you feel? It’s usually masking something deeper — hurt, sadness, fear, loneliness, or a sense of rejection. It’s a mask that helps us avoid the real, uncomfortable emotions we’re not taught how to process.
And that’s where therapy comes in. Therapy helps unmask the anger and lets you dig deeper into what’s actually going on inside. It gives you permission to feel everything that’s been bottled up without judgement.
Vulnerability: The Pathway to Real Peace
Here’s a reality check: vulnerability isn’t just about crying in front of someone or talking about your feelings (although it can be, and that’s fine). Vulnerability is the key to living a full, meaningful life. It’s the door to better emotional health, better relationships, and yes — even better mental clarity.
When you open up to vulnerability, something incredible happens. You start experiencing real peace and a quiet inner contentment. No more pretending to be someone you’re not. No more keeping up a facade of strength that’s actually just exhausting. You begin to feel lighter, more connected, and more authentic in your relationships — whether it’s with your partner, your friends, or even your kids.
When you embrace vulnerability, you begin to own your emotions. And when you do that, you start to control them, instead of them controlling you!
Sue Morrison
REGISTERED PSYCHOTHERAPIST q,
CERTIFIED ADDICTION COUNSELLOR
White Brick Therapy
289.207.0554
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